Quality Time With Dead Fish

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Relationship experts are always spewing forth the importance of quality time.  I don’t disagree with this.  But, the first go-to solution they have is usually date night.  That’s great . . . if you have the time and energy.

With The Day Job for me, our construction company, The Boy, Daisy Doodle, Dinky The Fierce & Walnut & His Girls, it’s sometimes hard for us to carve out time for a date night.  Even if it’s just having dinner with friends.

Yesterday, The Hubby went ice fishing with a cousin.  He was gone when I woke up and didn’t come home until around supper time.  We had dinner, he surfed his phone and then we headed to the garage. . . to a bucket of dead fish that needed tended to.

So, as he cut the meat from the fish and I deboned the meat, we got to have some quality time together.  The conversation wasn’t all that romantic . . . or really all that plentiful.  But, we enjoyed the time together.

I can’t begin to tell you how much meat we have processed together over the years.  It’s a good thing I’m not squeamish about it.  We’ve done probably a thousand fish, hundreds of deer and even some chickens over the course of the almost 15 years we’ve been married.

So, yeah, the experts may have advice . . . but I think the lesson here is to think outside the box with your relationship.  It doesn’t have to be a romantic dinner, or pizza and Netflix . . .or whatever.  Just do what works for you in that moment in time.  It’s a nugget of wisdom I need to remember.

Peace, Love & Little Moments

Hoosier Barn Chick


It’s On Me!

I decided this afternoon to do a little research on blog writing . . . you know, it’s that short attention span thing.

And, I decided that there must be tons of other people out there like me . . . trying to write a blog every day and always having those moments of self-doubt . . . and a not-so-solid plan as to how to go about it.

So, in honor of all of us trying to do something bigger than ourselves, I’m hosting a giveaway.


One person will be awarded a Kindle edition of The “5 P” Approach To Copy That Crushes It.  A random winner will be chosen from those who follow me on twitter @INBarnChick.

Enter for your chance to win it here!

Peace, Love & 5 P’s

Hoosier Barn Chick


Bipolar With A Side Of ADHD


For years I have lamented on my short attention span.  It can make life very frustrating.  I have problems finishing things . . . ok, it’s more than a problem.  And, I tend to lay stuff down while my thoughts are elsewhere and then I can’t find what I did with said stuff.

This morning I woke up feeling so very motivated.  I managed to give Daisy Doodle a bath (long overdue), pop in the refills for the Airwick warmers, cook dinner and start a load of laundry.

Then, the short attention span kicked in.  It started with thinking about changing the layout of my blog . . . which morphed into reading an article about apps that help organize your life . . . which morphed into knowing that I really needed to do today’s post.

As I cursed the ADHD, I realized that maybe it and my bipolar could somehow be related.  And guess what?  It very well could be.

ADHD and bipolar tend to share a lot of symptoms.  It’s the reason why a lot of people are not properly diagnosed as bipolar for quite some time.  And, up to 70% of people who are bipolar (diagnosed) are also diagnosed with ADHD.  That’s pretty intimidating.

When I first got the right diagnosis for bipolar, I was put on medication and sent to see a therapist.  I was clinically depressed.  I thought that the therapist would teach me how to navigate through life on a day-to-day basis with bipolar.  Kind of like a how-to class on what to do every day.  Guess what?  Therapy isn’t always like that.  At then end of my sessions with the therapist, I walked away feeling ok overall, but also feeling like I had no plan for what to do.

To be honest, I think that a lot now.  It just seems like there should be a book.  A “do this, do that, then do that” guide for each day.

The closest I could come was some fairly general instructions:

  • Take your medications. . . all the time!
  • Go to therapy or a support group.
  • Keep your life structured.
  • Eat healthy.
  • Exercise regularly.
  • Do not isolate yourself.
  • Do not use alcohol or drugs.
  • Set a regular sleep schedule.

These are all great pieces of advice (for a lot of things in life) but they are just so vague.  They always say that when you set goals, you need to be specific.  Eating better is too vague.  Setting a goal to eat 2 servings of veggies each day is much better.  I need a guide like that in my life . . . a very detailed guide.  A day-to-day checklist.

Who am I kidding?  I’d either lose the guide or lose interest in it almost immediately.

Peace, Love & Lost In My Thoughts

Hoosier Barn Chick

Fried Taters – A Side For Any Dish


Photo by Christopher Flowers on Unsplash

Ok, so fried potatoes don’t really go with any dish.  But, I LOVE potatoes.  Years ago, I went on the low-carb bandwagon (and lost quite a bit of weight and kept it off for several years until the meat & potatoes loving hubby came into my life) and was forced to give up potatoes and bread!  YIKES!

But, with the love of my life, carbs came back. Yesterday I decided to make fried potatoes since I was home and not in a rush. Did you know there are secrets to perfect fried potatoes (and french fries)?

Ok, here’s how to get the most mileage from your taters:

  • Skin equals taste!  I like all of my potatoes with the skin on.  So, all I have to do is scrub them really good with hot water and a veggie brush.
  • Size matters!  Cut your potatoes evenly.  And, if you like them on the less-soggy side, cut them thinner.  For fried potatoes, I like to cut them between 1/8″ and 1/4″.
  • Soak those puppies!   Soak your cut potatoes in a big bowl with ice water, ice and salt.  This removes the excess starch, helps keep them from sticking together and makes them crispier.
  • Give them a good rinse!  You want to wash off all of that salt and the starch.
  • Dry them thoroughly!  You never put anything wet in oil!
  • Make sure your oil is hot!  You don’t want it smoking, but you do want it to have a wave or ripple effect before you put the potatoes in.  I usually put one in and see if it starts to sizzle before adding more.
  • Don’t throw them in all at once.  Add them a few at a time with a few seconds in between so that the oil has a chance to maintain its temp.
  • Give ’em plenty of room!  This is the hardest part for me.  I like to get things done quickly.  But, crowding them is a no-no.  They need plenty of room to make sure they are surrounded by the oil and so that they can cook evenly.
  • Cover your potatoes.  Ok, only for a few minutes.  You want to make sure they get cooked all the way through but you need them to be uncovered to brown and get crispy.
  • Drain your potatoes . . . and once you have finished all of your batches, put them in a bowl or paper bag, sprinkle your seasoning in and stir/shake them up really good.  You chance seasoning them unevenly or seasoning them too much by doing each batch.  The oil on the last batch will help to distribute the seasoning to the previous ones.


Peace, Love & Taters

Hoosier Barn Chick