You know the old saying: When life hands you lemons, make lemonade!
That’s a great attitude to have. And, if you can keep that attitude through the rougher times in your life, that’s even better!
Sometimes we need to stop and recognize that we either don’t or can’t approach life this way.
For instance, I’m a turtle. When life gets hard or stressful for me, I pull myself into my shell. I do this both physically and mentally. I don’t leave the house and I try not to interact with anyone.
But, I am a master spinner. No, I don’t mean that I take an exercise class. I’m more of a Sit N Spin type of girl. Remember that toy from the 70’s? I hole up in The Barn and my mind spins around imagining all of the worst scenarios and all of the ways I SHOULD be handling things but I’m not.
Does this sound familiar to you? Do you stick your head in the sand when things get rough?
There has to be better coping mechanisms than this. I know it in my brain and in my heart. I just have to convince my brain to reach for one of them.
Let’s look at some of our options:
- Just power through it. Not one of my favorite options but I’ve been known to do it. In other words, you just push it to the back of your mind and get it done. I like to call this trudging through. It’s not pretty. But, it can be just as effective as other choices.
- Find your tribe and ask for advice/help. You have a tribe. You may not realize it, but you do. That doesn’t mean all of your friends are just like you. It means that you have a circle of people who all share something in common with you . . . and who complement you. For instance, if you are not a generally creative person and you find yourself stuck on a project . . . or even need help choosing a project, ask one of tribe who is known for creativity.
- Go find your joy and mull things over while you do it. When I recently was feeling a heavy heart for a friend that I could not physically help at the moment, I grabbed the afghan I’ve been working on for weeks, took it to my bedroom where I was all alone and worked on it. While I was threading ribbon around it, I let my brain and heart work out my feelings. It didn’t fix my heavy heart. But, it helped me work through the shock and sadness some while moving forward with one of my many unfinished projects.
- Go somewhere that you can be alone. . . and cry, scream, argue with the universe. Just be verbal . . .and loud. Not only will you be working through your feelings, you will be expending some of that negative physical energy. Especially if you are screaming.
- Write it out. In this digital day and age, we’ve forgotten how good it feels to actually feel the pen and paper in our hands and write out what’s eating up our brains.
- Go bust it out physically. Yeah. I’m not a person who does a lot of exercise. But, you can burn off the negative energy and let your brain work in the background. Kind of like #3.
That’s all I have for today. Maybe as I try to find the best coping methods for myself, I will discover new ones. Maybe one of you sweet baby bunnies will enlighten me with something that helps you.
Peace, Love & Inner Peace
Hoosier Barn Chick