Yup, that sounds weird doesn’t it? But, I’ve recently realized I am a bad friend to myself.
I do not take the commitments I make to myself seriously. For instance, I will tell myself that I will clean out my car when I get home. And, I make dinner, do the dishes, do laundry and do other things that help my family. Then, I plop down for some serious screen time.
That doesn’t sound so bad does it? But, if I had a friend who said they would come over to help me clean out my car that evening and they didn’t show . . . I would at least be disappointed. If they bailed on me regularly, I’d have to reconsider our friendship.
Yet, I bail on myself all of the time! I say I’m going to eat better, drink more water, go for a walk, clean out the junk drawers in the kitchen . . . and I don’t.
This plays out regularly in my life like a horrible and depressing youtube video on repeat.
We put so much responsibility on ourselves to be the best we can for other people. We put everyone’s needs and support before our own. I’m not saying we need to be selfish. But, we need to remember that we should be just as important to ourselves as other people are to us.
Granted, there are always brief periods of time where we have to put someone else first. But, that doesn’t mean we get knocked completely off of the calendar. Or at least it shouldn’t.
By not being a good friend to ourselves, we are telling ourselves that we are not important and not worthy of the time spent. We are putting ourselves down. . . eating at our self-confidence without even knowing it.
My challenge to you, the warriors of life, is to make sure you are a good friend to yourself. I’m taking that challenge too!
Peace, Love & Self Respect
Hoosier Barn Chick